How many times have you heard people gossiping about inter-caste or inter-religion weddings? If not the gossip, the judgements are made on the decisions of both the partners’ families or conditioning to have arrived to marry a person from a different caste possessing different thoughts, beliefs and practising different culture altogether.
Now comes the billion-dollar question: Who decides, marrying outside caste or religion is against the society? Of course, the society itself. But does this same society has the same attitude towards everybody who doesn’t follow the norms? This is much more questionable than questioning society.
There are common citizens and then there are people possessing power and money (authorities). With power comes money and with money comes power. It is a cycle nobody can question. While a common man is expected to follow every norm, the authorities are exempted from the same.
The caste system has been followed for centuries in India. But when it comes to the authorities, this system seems to have been non-existent.
If one looks at Bollywood, some actors and actresses being Indians have married outside their caste or religion.
If one focuses on religion alone, there are countless examples.
Aamir Khan married Reena Dutta followed by marrying Kiran Rao after divorcing his first wife. Both women are Hindu.
Saif Ali Khan married Amrita Singh; their marriage ended in divorce after a few years of marriage. He married his second wife Kareena Kapoor who also is a Hindu.
Shahrukh Khan married Gauri Chibber now known as Gauri Khan was also a Hindu before marriage.
Sharmila Tagore married Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi, the Nawab of Pataudi and former captain of the Indian Cricket Team. She converted to Islam before marrying him and became begum Ayesha Begum/Ayesh Sultana.
Soha Ali Khan married Kunal Khemu who is a Hindu.
Indian Cricketer, Yuzvendra Chahal had an inter-caste marriage with his wife, Dhanashree Verma.
It does not stop here, Malaika Arora Khan, former wife of Arbaaz Khan is now with Arjun Kapoor who is much younger to her.
I am not saying the Hindus are converted to Islam but I am stressing the fact that if a common woman/man decides to do the same; they have to fight the society and much worse face consequences thereafter.
There have been cases of communal violence, death threats, honour killing and much more.
If the people in power decide to marry outside caste or religion, why are they treated as goals whereas the common couple is subjected to violence? Why are they not seen as goals as well and go trending on social media? Why the common couple has to face criticism and explain to society for being married to a partner of their choice.
Surely, there are exceptions to everything. But if society decides to raise an issue and support their perspective then it must raise the issue irrespective of the background the couple comes from. I am not supporting injustice and unfairness towards couples belonging to different religions or castes. But this hypocritical behaviour of society is not new. It was there before; it is still there and it will exist in the future too.
Inter caste or inter-religion marriages may disgust the society to the core but being a chameleon to power and money is pathetically disgusting. Gossiping and passing judgments on the couple just because they made their choice to be happily married throughout their life shows what the society we gladly follow is made of.